Pro-Life, Pro-Choice

Just heard a very moving song by this band called Ben Folds Five. The song, titled "Brick", detailed the experience of one of the band members bringing his girlfriend to have an abortion back in high school on the day after Christmas. Although I've never had such an experience, I did have some pregnancy scares with some of my exes before. An ex of mine asked me, if you loved someone so much, why would you even consider abortion? Good question.

I'm not 100% pro-choice. I'm definitely not pro-life. I'm pro-think-about-it, and anti-stupidity. I think if we have unplanned pregnancies, we have to think about it. We should never just take a life carelessly. At the same time, it would be retarded to be limited by such a thing as morals or religion. Better an abortion than to throw the baby away in a dumpster in front of St. Mary's High School (true story. My friend found a baby left there.)

I think the choice is definitely up to the woman. After all, she is the one that has to carry the baby around for nine months, lose her figure and "tightness" and bear the brunt of this conservative society that we live in. If I were to get a girl pregnant, I will leave the choice entirely up to her. If she wants to go for the abortion, I will be financially responsible. If she wants to keep the baby, I will be financially responsible as well.

But I will never marry someone just because I got her pregnant. Having a baby is one thing. Getting married is another thing. To me, neither are related to each other. If I do love her enough and vice versa, yeah, marriage is ok. But if the rshp is just a fling or too new and unstable, marriage is definitely out of the question for me.

One thing I find difficult to take is religious hypocrisy. I had an ex who claims to be a strong Christian, but abortion is always the first thing in her mind whenever we have pregnancy scares. I had another ex who was still a student, but was never worried even when her period was late. I asked her before why she wasn't worried, she said because she believes that everything would be fine if we stuck by each other throughout all of it.

And that is kinda what this song is about. A couple who did not stick by each other throughout the experience of abortion, leading to the both of them being permanently scarred psychologically by the experience.




Ben Folds Five - Brick


6 am day after christmas
I throw some clothes on in
The dark
The smell of cold
Car seat is freezing
The world is sleeping and
I am numb
Up the stairs to her apartment
She is balled up on the couch
Her mom and dad went down
To Charlotte
They're not home to find us
Out
And we drive
Now that I have founds someone
I'm feeling more alone
Than I ever have before

Shes a brick and I'm drowning
Slowly
Off the coast and I'm headed
Nowhere
Shes a brick and I'm drowning
Slowly

They call her name at 7:30
I pace around the parking lot
Then I walk down to buy her
Flowers
And sell some gifts that I got
Cant you see
Its not me you're dying for
Now shes feeling more alone
Than she ever has before

Shes a brick and I'm drowning
Slowly
Off the coast and I'm headed
Nowhere
Shes a brick and I'm drowning
Slowly

As weeks went by
It showed that she was not fine
They told me son its time
To tell the truth
And she broke down and I broke
Down
cause I was tired of lying
Driving back to her apartment
For the moment were alone
Shes alone
And I'm alone
Now I know it

Shes a brick and I'm drowning
Slowly
Off the coast and I'm headed
Nowhere
Shes a brick and I'm drowning
Slowly